Ice Quing @winter@rage.love

It has been genuinely freeing to realize that I actually am kinda crazy and that's okay.

My craziness often helps me be artistically or ethically creative in ways I wouldn't stumble on without it.

When my craziness impairs my quality of life, I at least don't have self-hate for being crazy on top of everything else.

Being okay (not perfectly happy, just okay) with being crazy is itself crazy, and you know what, it's great and I recommend it to everyone.

If you’ve liked my recent posts on white fragility and have any income, please consider donating to @ArtistMarciaX@playvicious.social - my intellectualized articulation of antiblack racism on the fedi is their actual lived experience.

Subscribe to their art here: https://www.artistmarciax.com/subscriptions
Another way to make a monthly contribution: https://en.liberapay.com/ArtistMarciaX/
Make a one time payment here (minimum donation €5): https://www.gofundme.com/f/on-the-road-to-phd

If you’re nonblack and you can’t donate, then you can’t. You don’t have to beat yourself up about it - that doesn’t help you or anyone else. But also don’t attack black people on the fedi for having needs or expressing emotions. Don’t make your limitations black people’s problem.

60 people favorited or boosted my post. If all those people donated €5 to Marcia’s GoFundMe, that would be €300. That would certainly be a start.

I can't promise that I will never make a mistake.

I also can't promise that I can improve my actions in response to call-ins or call-outs. Some of this is due to mental illness and disability reducing my ability to do *anything*, but whatever my reasons/excuses, that doesn't negate harm I do or make it invalid for people to be angry at or disappointed in me.

I try to look for cues that my input is unneeded/unwanted before I add to it. I can back off if I've been previously aggressive or derailing in a discussion, and I respect people putting up boundaries around interacting with me (whether that be an explicit request to not interact, or a nonverbal but clear signal like being blocked).

Will add more to this thread as needed.

Does anyone have any advice for running an online #mutualaid group? It's one thing to start one; it's another thing to make it sustainable and as helpful as possible to those who really need it. "Start a Facebook group!" advice overlooks security and logistics issues with the site. A public mutual aid group I joined was quickly overwhelmed by too many posts and was predated upon by a bad actor. Really REALLY want to avoid similar issues if I end up organizing.

Pitfalls of organizing: perfectionism, sense of urgency, defensiveness, quantity over quality, worship of the written word, paternalism, either/or thinking, power hoarding, fear of open conflict, individualism, progress is bigger/more, objectivity, and right to comfort.

From White Supremacy Culture
From Dismantling Racism: A Workbook for Social Change Groups, by Kenneth Jones and Tema Okun, ChangeWork, 2001.

http://cwsworkshop.org/PARC_site_B/dr-culture.html

You know what’s dumb? The literally constant struggle to keep my mental health at an acceptable level. Even small lapses in concentration and I backslide :/

Teylanii is a single mom and DV survivor who needs a new phone, and for herself and her 5 year old daughter to stay housed.

She needs $590 for rent due November 4 and $200 for a new phone, for a total of $790.

So far at $133/$790.

Cashapp: $roetheboat
Paypal: baegirlb@gmail.com

7. Disabled elders, especially intellectually disabled elders, are likely to not have biological children due to our eugenicist society

The current framework that the elderly will/should be cared for by their own biological offspring as opposed to chosen family or fairly-compensated caretakers is SUCH a bad idea for so many reasons

1. Not all elderly people have biological children, especially lgbt elders
2. Not all adult biological children are able to do caretaking work
3. Not all adult biological children can be trusted to do ethical caretaking work
4. Forcing adult survivors of child abuse to care for their abusers in old age is ripe for abuse in either direction
5. By default, adult daughters tend to get stuck doing unpaid caretaking of their parents while the adult sons do nothing
6. The organization of society into self-contained family units, especially nuclear families, disincentivizes people from caring for anyone outside their family, cementing class hierarchies and increasing elderly people’s isolation and loneliness

I’m sure there’s more

Tina has met her goal. Thanks everybody

I wish community actually existed instead of being a sentimental fiction

The phrase “virtue signaling” is potentially useful, but when the governor of Mississippi uses it to insult people who want to actually do something to stop covid deaths, I feel like the phrase has been tainted by association beyond return

The cognitive dissonance I see from people who aren’t total racist jerkasses but are also related to a cop and want to believe their cop relative is different? Painful to watch