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The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

Just so yall know the grifter who published and came up with the five love languages in the 90s is a Christian fundamentalist with a whole list of problematic shit. Also he's a marriage counselor who's credentials is his church.

If the concept of compartmentalizing love into five categories wasn't problematic enough for you.

medium.com/blunt-therapy/the-b

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat
I'm not surprised, cause the theory just seems wrong when you hear it, but damn

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@Cyborgneticz you'd be surprised how many people, even a lot of queer anti-gender-binary folks fall for it.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat @Cyborgneticz I was one of them. I'm kinda sad and nonetheless it was so obviously ideological....

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat I always figured that "what is your love language" stuff was horseshit. thanks for the link, I will check it out.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat I used to find the framework sort of useful as a start to showing kindness to someone, but the origins are extremely blurgh and what people need is always going to be contextual.

It does kind of amuse me though to imagine a tradwife being like "my love language is acts of service, honey," to get her trad husband to do the dishes once in a blue moon

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@winter yeah, I think the concept is inherently heterosexual hegemony in action, and it's fuckin wack to see queers utilize it (a good example of how easy it is to sucker in folks who haven't applied broad analysis to their lives).

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@winter also, as someone who's on the aromantic spectrum, it's only induced anxiety and thoughts of inadequacy for me. God knows what it does to other folks.

@winter @schrodingers_cat My love language is gifting LEGO models, not sure it fits in just 5 love languages.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat wow. ok, then.
it's like that grifter went to a work team building thing where they reduce everyone to 4 colors to represent work style, and tell everyone how to get along with the other colors.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat (green, blue, yellow, and orange.)

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat this fucking guy

i resent him SO MUCH

he personally has spread so much mean-spirited misinformation

I know a lot of neurodivergent people who are always looking for rulesets to understand the patterns behind human relating, and for good reasons like wanting to make sure the people they love can TELL they are loved

and instead we get THIS

and it has been so persistent and it makes me angry

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@cobalt yeah it's really perverted some folks understanding of human behavior.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat @cobalt

o_0 Never even heard of this before today.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@xenophora @cobalt consider yourself lucky

@schrodingers_cat i honestly find that categorizations of "personality type" or anything like it are overwhelmingly held by racist and essentialist people so i'm like disgusted but not even surprised. ive never met a person who loves myers briggs who wasnt a transphobe and this "love language" shit is like level 2 of that lmao.

re: The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat I bet there's lots more love languages! (We haven't read what his are, but one of ours is "sending/linking them to pictures we think they'd like". And I kinda doubt he has that. :3)

re: The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@IceWolf lol he most definitely does not. 😂

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat huh, interesting to know. i always thought it was kind of slippery.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@mosttoast slippery?

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat yeah, like personality tests- it's a one size fits all that can shapeshift into whatever feels the best for the reader.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat thanks for educating me.

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@schrodingers_cat Oh shit, I always felt bad that none of them fit me, wow its just bunk crap anyways! 😮

The Five Love Languages, racism, anti-queer, and more bigotry 

@Thorn_Mercury lol it's always bunk crap

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