@dudenas @woozle I mean, if mods make it a practice not to be transparent to their users and to disregard their convenience that's fundamentally a human problem 🤷♀️ It might be nice to have, say, automatic notification and time delay if there are contacts between the instances, but that's simply a technical facilitation of what good mods do anyway and should be bypassed when human discretion calls for it, e.g. if there is only one user following someone from the other instance it might be more efficient to tell that user privately rather than make a public notice depending on concern of harassment etc.
Yes, there is an easy interface to view connections between one's instance and a different instance under the federation admin menu, like how many people on the instance follow people on this instance and vice versa, how many blocks, and how many reports there have been.
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