(still) Need financial help, please boost
I don’t wanna make yet another post, but I still didn’t get much from this one and am still in a difficult financial situation. I’m still accepting help
@ugla Jag säger "vadan detta?" ganska ofta. Jag gillar det.
As an example closer to home (and more relevant to the Linux packaging debate), a lot of Mastodon instances are potentially going to have index corruption when glibc updates. Server admins will have to pay close attention during their next `sudo apt-get update` and make sure to reindex Postgres right afterwards, or else hashtag links might be broken. https://docs.joinmastodon.org/admin/troubleshooting/index-corruption/
I would much prefer Postgres to just bundle/static-link glibc, but I guess that's not how they do things.
school
@dark_soil I can probably help out with SQL stuff, if you like. R is cool too, but not sure how much I can help there. I have general programming experience though. Don't hesitate to ask.
instance block rec
gorf.pub, "free speech" instance, admin (@ derek @ gorf.pub) posts extremely transphobic + homophobic shit & uses the f slur etc. found him in someone's replies harassing them. i can provide receipts if necessary
also it used to be a soapbox instance lol
@hafnia I liked it! I want to remember it had a lot of tiny things that sets it apart. Like, it doesn't really have chapters, right?
Won't say anything else before you've finished it, if you want to discuss it. :)
Wikipedia quote
@nimp Please let me keep thinking that's from October of last year. It's even more fun to imagine.
Queer SF fans: Where oh where are the bold works of science fiction that portray new possibilities of love and relationships, representing the full spectrum of sexuality and gender?
Octavia Butler: *writes in the 80s about cross-species triad marriages involving three genders*
N. K. Jemisin: *writes gay, bisexual, trans, and lesbian characters, portrays the main character in a polyamorous relationship with two men*
Nnedi Okorafor: *portrays cross-species polyamory/extended family including a complex queerplatonic friendship*
Queen SF fans: None is to be found, clearly our only choice is to stan a racist and antisemitic series with zero queer characters by a dead white dude 😔
gaslighting, abuse PSA, clarification
This doesn't mean that you are never sensitive, or that people should never mention it. I say this as someone who really *is* overly sensitive (hello ADHD and RSD), but had that used against me for decades in abusive ways that did nothing to help me manage my sensitivity.
It can be helpful to say, "You seem sensitive about this, and I'd like to learn more about what's stressful to you so I can avoid accidentally hurting you."
It can also be helpful to say, depending on the nature and closeness of the relationship and if it's established that no lines are crossed, "You're obviously suffering and maybe you could learn healthier ways to cope with this."
It can EVEN be hard but honest to say, "I'm sorry, I can't accommodate you the way you need to be. Maybe we should have some space."
However, "You are too sensitive which automatically invalidates your pain and means I can keep on doing whatever the fuck I like no matter how you're hurting lol" is abuse. That is gaslighting. It helps no one except the speaker, certainly not the person who *by the the speaker's own admission* is in inordinate pain. If someone's reaction to your pain is to laugh at you and then keep hurting you, they don't care about you. This is abusive behavior.
Anyone know something that's in the spirit of Plex but for audiobooks? (NB: I know ways to make Plex do audiobooks, I want something else)
Bonus points for:
an existing reflector so my ISP can't log who is connecting to my server,
other users can both stream and download without paying anyone a fee
Thanks!
Good Morning
If you use #FediBlock & want to help support the Afro-Indigenous femme that started it you can either donate to my liberapay, or sign up to my DIY content subscription service, all links on my profile. Don't erase me from my work.
@gingerrroot helped worked to get that tag off the ground, help her out too.
Stop erasing femmes from their community efforts on here, esp the ones of color who have been here for yrs at this point.
@polymerwitch Sounds very interesting. I need to get up-to-speed with @spritelyproject, maybe there are things in there that help an effort like that.
I don't really like Ruby either. And I have mixed feelings about Rust. I really like the language itself (even if I'm far from being an expert) but I'm worried about things around it, like what's happening with Mozilla and everything organized around github.
I think Spritely has some features about mutual concent regarding federation or something. I need something like your project to motivate me to properly look into it.
All that said, I think your idea sounds fun but I'm having issues with spoon management, so how much effort I can spend on something like this probably varies a lot week-to-week.
@polymerwitch Hello. I was pointed in your direction re developing federation software. Wanna share a few messages?
It came up as I volunteered to help out ragelove with technical stuff to make life easier for moderators.
@lesbian_subnet @hazelnot I still remember and regularly think about the text on one of the signs they had when they were walking to Socialstyrelsen: Inga politiker mellan våra ben ("No politicians between our legs")
I like so many things. I like baking and working on computers and reading books alone and being in large groups of friends. I love scifi and a bit of poetry, I love science communication and the breaking up of norms. Let me be who I am, and challenge me when I'm missing something.
I like conversations more than discussions, not everything has to be about convincing somebody about something.
Very interested in the slow web.
Moving over from @human_equivalent on eldritch.cafe